You know, where you sit down with your other half and bare all, or tell them that their money habits are driving you CRAZY? Maybe one of you is a Saver, and the other a Spender. The Saver thinks the Spender is out of control, while the Spender thinks the Saver is a tightwad. You sort of skirt the money talk to avoid confrontation and keep peace in the marriage. There's only one problem. You touch money just about every day. If issues don't get resolved they fester, and erode trust or patience. There is a better way!
I hope to see pay equity in my lifetime, for all the women who continue the hard fight for it. It took 30 years for all the working women of my generation to move the pay equity needle from 69 cents to 81 cents. THIRTY YEARS, of working long hours, being perfectly prepared for every meeting, receiving promotions every 1 ½ years, and yes, even negotiating raises and bonuses. THIRTY YEARS for all the women who raised children and worked full time, running out at 5 pm facing scorn from their male counterparts, then working 2 hours after they cooked dinner and put the kids to bed. But Pay Equity still won’t achieve equality, and here’s why.
“Tribe” is a new word, and a very old word. It’s used a lot in the women’s networking world – “finding your tribe”. This blog came to me after finding my own networking tribe after a 2-year search. I’m also reminded of how I am surrounded by my true tribe in life, which keeps me happy and grounded. Here are three indicators to help you identify if you’re in the right tribe for you, and what it means to your spending.
Do you literally vibrate inside with panic when the topic of money comes up? Is your money anxiety due to under confidence or frightening conversations you heard as child? You know money self-care is as important as taking care of your health, your children, your career, but you just can't face it? We completely understand. This seminar has been created especially for you.
“No surprises” is the mantra I highly recommend for any two people wanting to buy a home together. It may be your next home after outgrowing the one you’re in. It might be your first home now that you’re newly married. Maybe you’re just trying out this couple thing and are willing to share an asset. Regardless, when it comes to getting a mortgage, here are 4 things that even married couples are sometimes surprised about – when it’s almost too late.
Many couples don’t want to talk about money. The reasons run from “It will ruin the romance” to “I don’t want to rock the boat”. Love and marriage are perceived as pure, hopeful, and precious – and money is often considered dirty, callous, or controversial. Here is why this thinking is completely wrong, and how your love is already in trouble if you think this way.
“I wish I discussed finances before I got married last time.” Sound familiar?
Did you know past statistics have shown that in the U.S. approximately 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce?* Not surprisingly, a major cause of divorce in marriages is money. *
You’ve found that special someone (again) but, you’re still trying to figure out how you talk about the “M” word without ruining the romance. You know it's smart to work together, but where do you start? Building a solid foundation of communication and partnership around managing your money is crucial to lifelong intimacy, trust, and success in a marriage.
Sometimes my clients move appointments further out this time of year. When the sun is shining, barbecues are scheduled, and summer camp is around the corner, life is a flurry of activity. There is hope and warmth and fun. Money has traditionally been last on their list, falling behind TV re-reruns and cleaning out the garage.
Any reason is valid to avoid the shame, fear, or embarrassment that arises around money. We choose to live with the underlying hum of money anxiety rather than confront it in the open.
My clients are terrific. They are all unique with their own special gifts and ways of looking at the world. I learn something from each of them. And yet, the way they feel when they first come to me is so incredibly heartbreaking….and unnecessary.It takes incredible courage to admit that their financial situation isn’t where they’d like it to be, and to bear their souls about the inner most secrets of their financial lives. Just that alone is enough for me to want to wrap my arms around them and protect them from further hurt.
If you decide to initiate the divorce process, take the time to research all your finances thoroughly. Once your intent to divorce is verbalized, the emotional roller coaster begins. Hopefully it doesn’t include the hiding of assets or deceitful misrepresentation.
Even if you don’t understand what you’re looking at, finding information can be very helpful for you. Your lawyer and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst will know what to do with it all.